I Don’t Like Stuff of My Children to Be Disturbed by Her — What to Do?
Case:
There is a child in my home related to my relative, she is very arrogant and also use the stuff of my children which I don’t like. I don’t say her a clear no because I don’t want fight in my home but I don’t like that she touches or use the stuff of my children because my children use their stuff very carefully and she is very uncareful type of girl.
She doesn’t much care about the things in surrounding and she is very lazy and I hate so many of her bad actions, not her.
However, I want to keep a boundary so that she should know that she is not allowed to disturb the stuff of my children because she does not allow her stuff to be touched by my children so I want to give her tit for tat but in a way that should not create a fight at my home because my mother-in-law has destroyed her mindset through bad behaviours and evil actions.
Response:
It's important to maintain peace and harmony in your home while addressing this issue. Here are some suggestions on how to set boundaries with the child without creating conflict:
1. Communication: Have a gentle and respectful conversation with the child’s parents about your concerns regarding her behavior and the use of your children’s belongings. They may not be aware of the situation, and discussing it calmly can help them understand your perspective.
2. Establish Boundaries: Clearly communicate to the child, in a polite and friendly manner, that certain items are off-limits for her use. You can explain that your children are careful with their belongings, and it’s important for everyone to respect each other’s things.
3. Lead by Example: Encourage your children to continue being respectful and careful with their belongings. By demonstrating good behavior, they can indirectly influence the child to be more mindful.
4. Create Separate Spaces: If possible, designate specific areas or items for your children that are separate from the child’s play area or belongings. This can help minimize conflicts over sharing and usage.
5. Positive Reinforcement: Praise and encourage the child when she shows consideration and respect for others' belongings. Positive reinforcement can help reinforce good behavior.
6. Involve Parents: If the issue persists despite your efforts, consider involving the child’s parents again to find a mutually agreeable solution. They may have insights or suggestions on how to address the situation effectively.
Remember to approach the situation with empathy and understanding, considering the child’s perspective and the dynamics within the family.
