Can a Rapist Change?

Zeeshan Arshad
4 min readFeb 9, 2020

Yes — provide back so much love, empathy and heal his wounded animal.

Inside of a rapist, a wounded cute child is hidden who has transformed into an uncontrolled elephant — and if people around him will try to tease and insult — they’re actually hurting him more and increasing his cruelty.

We better not give back insult, abuses, hate, criticism and brutal behaviors.

LISTEN & UNDERSTAND — DO NOT ADVICE and INSULT CHARACTER!

IF we truly want to save and help him and he is WILLING to come back — otherwise, we know that if elephant is not capable to be tamed back into normal condition and the case is completely impossible then we surely know the treatment is to kill that animal (not because of hate, because to save life of hundreds of other people by sacrificing one).

But what should be our first behavior?

A young man came to the Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, and he said, “O Messenger of Allah, give me permission to commit adultery.”

The people turned to rebuke him, saying, “Quiet! Quiet!”

The Prophet said, “Come here.”

The young man came close and he told him to sit down.

The Prophet said, “Would you like that for your mother?”

The man said, “No, by Allah, may I be sacrificed for you.”

The Prophet said, “Neither would people like it for their mothers. Would you like that for your daughter?”

The man said, “No, by Allah, may I be sacrificed for you.”

The Prophet said, “Neither would people like it for their daughters. Would you like that for your sister?”

The man said, “No, by Allah, may I be sacrificed for you.”

The Prophet said, “Neither would people like it for their sisters. Would you like that for your aunts?”

The man said, “No, by Allah, may I be sacrificed for you.”

The Prophet said, “Neither would people like it for their aunts.

Then, the Prophet placed his hand on him and he said, “O Allah, forgive his sins, purify his heart, and guard his chastity.”

After that, the young man never again inclined to anything sinful.

In another narration, the Prophet said to him, “Then hate what Allah has hated, and love for your brother what you love for yourself.”

So back to my answer and what I want to say here.

Someone who wants to rape (or even a rapist in modern trending brain-washing industry including our cruel society) require someone brave enough who have courage to go near that rapist, provide back love and tame him back to normal human through real psychological methods — not by hate or attack on personality or his actions (including past).

BUT…sadly what I see in our society is majority of haters, abusers — less love, less humanity, less understanding of human behavior and emotions.

This is included many psychologist, doctors and related people — who don’t truly have any wisdom to go deep down in heart of a human being.

We need more people with courage to come out and take the stage of love — and start spreading it in negative society — we need a lot of love now a days.

When I see a rapist or someone getting brutally tortured by people in videos.

I think — what has caused him to do this rape?

And what has caused him to become a rapist behind the scene?

I feel sad for the one who was raped as well as for the person who has become what he is today (excluding those who truly don’t want to change themselves anymore being stubborn and have strong will to keep doing it again & again).

My point is for those who have become rapist and want to change themselves (inside) but are out of control by desires but don’t get love to break the shell of prison (pushed back by hate and insult on them).

I don’t doubt that same people who are beating him now are also responsible for turning him into a hatred beast — but never give back love.

Do you agree?

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Zeeshan Arshad

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